I had read this in a magazine and I’m quoting the same words without naming the people involved. It’s a great tip for anger management which all of us can follow.
“When a famous industrialist was in charge of a company, one of his senior executives made a blunder that costed the company over Rs.10 Crores.
Several top executives thought the Boss would come down heavily on this guy and probably fire him from job. But he didn’t.
Before he called the man in, he sat down, took a notepad and wrote across the top of it: ‘Points in favor of this man’. Then he listed the man’s strengths, including how he’d once helped the company make the right decision and earn them millions of dollars.
One of the senior executives who witnessed this AB’s philosophy, later said, ‘Whenever I am tempted to rip into someone, I force myself to sit down and compile a list of the good qualities they have. By the time I have finished, I have the right perspective.
And best of all, my anger is under control. I can’t tell you how many times this habit has prevented me from committing one of life’s costliest mistakes-losing my temper.
I recommend it to anyone who deals with people regularly.
So before you jump to conclusions about someone, stop, sit down & make a list of person’s best qualities.
If you do… you may come to a different conclusion. One thing is for sure, you’ll approach the person with the right attitude, and may be won’t say things you’ll later regret !!”