Life is a honey trap, if you dont know how to say” NO”..Many of us grow up to be people pleasers. Even I was, till I learnt to say No.
The word “No” drops out of our vocabulary, and we substitute lots of ways to be agreeable and keep the other person happy. Some people don’t know how to say No and say Yes just to get out of that situation. This won’t help. It’s better to say NO than say YES and promptly disappear, making that person lose trust in you .
Sometime when we don’t say No we also end up doing things which we really dont want to do.
How to say No…
1.Be firm — not defensive or overly apologetic — and polite. This gives the signal that you are sympathetic, but will not easily change your mind if pressured.
2.If you decide to tell the person you’ll get back to them, be matter-of-fact and not too promising.
3.If you lead people to believe you’ll likely say “yes” later, they’ll be more disappointed with a later “no.”And will lose their trust in you:).
If you make it a point to say No firmly when you mean it, and say Yes when you will actually do it, then people will trust you and they will understand, you mean what you say.
That makes all the difference.